Grief Support

Sharing and connecting with other people mourning the loss of loved ones is one of the most effective ways to move through grief and eventually re-embrace life.

Through prayer, inspirational readings and the sharing of grief stories, participants soon realize that they are not alone on their journeys. While all journeys contain some common elements, participants discover that each grief journey is unique in terms of length of mourning and depth of sorrow.

Holy Cross supports all those who are grieving the passing of their loved ones. Support group meetings are held two times per month. During the meetings, those in attendance are invited to share their stories if they feel comfortable doing so. In addition participants will have opportunities to comprehend what is happening in the midst of their grief and to learn to accept the many changes they are experiencing. Most of all, participants will discover a community of compassion and love that will help them get through the most difficult times in their grief journeys.

Come join us on the first and third Wednesdays of the month at 10:30am in Classroom D at 10:30am.

Journeying Through Grief

Should Have...Could Have...Would Have


Grieving can cause the mourner to experience a variety of emotions, remorse being one of them. Remorse can take the form of the mourner thinking of all the things that he/she should have or could have done, but didn’t do. If only I would have..., maybe things would have been better; maybe my loved one would have lived longer; maybe my loved one would not have suffered so much, etc. Living in the world of remorse is like falling into quicksand. This emotion can pull the mourner into a deep depression from which it is very difficult to escape. Sometimes the mourner wonders if his/her loved one and God will ever be able to forgive her/him for what was not done that could have been done. Eventually, he/she must open the door to healing by forgiving him/herself. With time, the grieving person will hopefully realize and accept that she/he did the best that she/he could do given the circumstances surrounding the loved one’s death.

Grief Journey - Mileage Unknown


Grief is often an experience filled with many surprises. One surprise that occurs frequently after the loved one has died comes in the form of an unexpected emotional response to something that reminds the mourner of his/her loved one.

For some, it may be a favorite song, the scent of a favorite perfume or after-shave, a "twin" who bears a striking resemblance to the deceased loved one, a favorite eating place, a favorite movie or television show. What may be shocking is that the response seems to come out of nowhere at a time when the mourner no long considers her/himself to be actively mourning. A surprise of this type is normal even if it happens several years after the initial period of mourning. It is part of the journey through grief that becomes easier with the passage of time, but is never totally completed. When the surprise occurs, it is best to experience and express the emotions instead of trying to suppress or ignore them. As time passes, the surprises occur less frequently and the intensity of the response diminishes.

The Bereavement Journey


Many people grieving the loss of a loved one may wonder if the journey is taking too long. Mourners may cling to the past afraid to let go of the life they once knew and afraid of what lies ahead. In this situation, the focus is on the past, and the grief journey does not lead to a renewal of life. In another situation, comments from family and friends may cause mourners to feel guilty about taking so long to get over the loss of their loved ones. In yet another situation, mourners may notice that other mourners appear to be making great progress while they see little, if any. Both of these can cause mourners to feel that there is something wrong with them.